Filed under: 11211, 11249, Red Hook, Red Hook Brooklyn, The Word On The Street, Williamsburg, Williamsburg Brooklyn
Ever since I read this item featuring this clip from “Broad City” wherein the (presumably) “broads” in question address the “You should smile” crap I have been thinking about this phenomenon.
More specifically, I have been thinking about what drives someone to admonish folks to smile. Yes, it is generally a means for men to get the attention of women— but not entirely. I have experienced similar shit. E.g.; lacking a smile, objections to my above-average command of profanity (thanks dad), commentary/”advice” about my fashion decisions, etc. Arguably the most annoying was from the woman who is apparently the “Queen” of Bedford Avenue. I forget her name. It does not matter.
One day I was walking (on Bedford Avenue). She, the doyenne, and one of her cronies felt compelled to point out that it was a mite bit chilly to be wearing a sundress (as I was). I recall saying something to the effect that I was quite comfortable and thanked them for their apparent concern for my welfare. The operative word in the previous sentence being “apparent”.
No caring/”concern” was being demonstrated. I was a target for displaced/projected passive-aggressive anger. What I found and still find most compelling is this came from fellow women.
My conclusions are follows:
- The kind of people who see fit to engage your person by commenting on what you wear, denigrating what you say (profanity, which is totally unheard of in New York City), or your visible lack of “happiness” are the most unhappy people of all. They are not happy with the world around them. Instead of dealing with this in an upfront, brutally introspective (READ: ADULT) fashion, they demand “propriety”. And smiles.
- People have the right to be (seemingly) unhappy in public. I write “seemingly” because most of the incidences which I recall being “corrected” regarding my lack of a happy face were while walking. “Walking time” is “thinking time” for me. Unsolicited “advice” disrupts this process.
- The message being sent by these miscreants (inasmuch as I can deduce) is “quit thinking” and start smiling. This is simply not going to happen.
- Smiles do not happiness make. See: The Stepford Wives.
- It is not my job to make you happy and/or provide “window dressing” for your delectation.
- Only you can make yourself happy.
Shooting the finger at this missive in Red Hook. It made me happy.
Filed under: 11205, 11206, The Word On The Street, Williamsburg, Williamsburg Brooklyn
Taken March 30, 2015.
Filed under: 11211, Crosstown Local, The Word On The Street, Williamsburg, Williamsburg Brooklyn
Taken March 26, 2015.
A fellow named Chris writes on March 15th (AKA: The Ides of March):
What is with all these dead birds being found? Saw this today on the waterfront of the east river state park. The next photo, you may not want to look at while eating.
Indeedy. Clean up in aisle five…
Seriously folks, why? How? Ew.
Taken March 4, 2015.
Filed under: 11206, 11211, New York City, The Word On The Street, Williamsburg, Williamsburg Brooklyn
Taken February 27, 2015.
Filed under: 11211, 11249, Stuff That Makes Miss Heather Happy, Urban Fur, Williamsburg, Williamsburg Brooklyn
From Driggs Avenue.
Taken February 19, 2015.
Taken by Jonathan Percy.